Freedom Is Just the Beginning — Stay Awake, Stay Open

Geraldine Hardy
Jul 4
7 min read

Freedom isn’t the final destination.It’s the beginning of a deeper, more honest phase of growth.

After making the bold move — leaving the job, the relationship, the country, or the identity — there’s often a moment of silence. A pause.And then the discomfort creeps in.

Not because we made the wrong choice — but because we’re meeting ourselves without distraction.

The Unexpected Side of Freedom

With freedom often comes a new kind of solitude.Not loneliness — but stillness. A space where there’s no one to mirror you. No more roles to play. No more outside voices to define who you are.

And that’s where the real encounter begins:We meet our habits. Our subconscious fears. Our old identity patterns that still want to run the show.

Why This Happens: A Subconscious Reset

More than 90% of our actions are influenced by the subconscious mind. Neuroscience research, including studies from Dr. Bruce Lipton and behavioral science published in journals like Frontiers in Psychology, confirms that the subconscious mind governs the majority of our automatic thoughts, behaviors, and emotional reactions. One foundational study from the University of California found that up to 95% of brain activity related to decision-making happens beneath conscious awareness (Bargh & Chartrand, 1999). Dr. Lipton's work further supports how subconscious belief systems drive biology and behavior (Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief).

Even in our freedom, if we aren’t present, we may still be making choices from fear, conditioning, or unprocessed pain.

This is why awareness matters.

More than 90% of our actions are influenced by the subconscious mind.Even in our freedom, if we aren’t present, we may still be making choices from fear, conditioning, or unprocessed pain.

This is why awareness matters.

“Show me the truth, and I will follow.”

Let this become your internal compass. Let it guide your next decisions — not urgency, not validation-seeking, not fear of being alone.

Practical Anchor: Meditate Daily

A 2023 study in Nature Mental Health showed that just 13 minutes a day of meditation for 8 weeks resulted in:

Better emotional regulation
Reduced anxiety
Fewer repetitive negative thoughts

You don’t need hours. You need consistency.Make meditation your daily hygiene — for your mind, heart, and nervous system.

When You’re Healing Attachment or Codependency

If you’ve ever:

Lost yourself in relationships
Struggled to set boundaries
Felt responsible for others’ emotions

Then this part is especially for you.

Aloneness is essential when healing from codependency or attachment wounds.

It helps you hear your own voice again.It re-regulates your sense of self.It teaches your nervous system that you are safe — even without external affirmation.

But here’s the deeper truth:If you continue to overgive and abandon yourself to earn love, you will keep attracting that pattern — even after you've walked away from it.

You may not call in another toxic partner, but you may call in a toxic boss, collaborator, client, or situation.Why? Because what remains unhealed in your field will reflect itself back to you — until it is fully witnessed and released.

The fear still held inside — of being alone, of being unworthy, of needing to prove yourself — will magnetize situations that test your boundaries.

This is why true healing isn’t just about setting boundaries externally.It’s about loving yourself so deeply, so consistently, that your energy no longer permits those dynamics in the first place.

You literally educate others how to treat you — through how you treat yourself.

Not through affirmations.Not through “positive vibes only” self-talk.But through a real, internal shift in vibration.

You must feel it.You must embody your worth.You must sit with your pain, not sugarcoat it.You must stop performing for love and start receiving it — from within.

Healing isn’t a mindset. It’s an energetic upgrade.

The Sensitivity of the Free Heart

As you become more free, you also become more sensitive.

You may notice:

Emotional rawness
Overwhelm in crowds
Sudden desire to protect your heart again
Intuition becoming sharper
A pullback from old social dynamics

This is not regression.It’s your system adjusting to new levels of clarity and truth.

Keep your heart open. Yes, it’s vulnerable. And yes — your light will trigger people who knew the older version of you. That’s okay. You’re not here to shrink.

Stay in Integrity — Especially Now

When we feel exposed, uncertain, or energetically raw, it can be tempting to compromise.

To say yes when we mean no. To lower our standards out of fear. To slip back into performances for safety, validation, or belonging.

But this is where your deeper alignment is tested.

Integrity is the anchor that holds during the storm of transformation.

Stay close to your truth.Choose what’s aligned — even if it means saying no to what’s convenient or familiar.Because when you abandon your integrity, you abandon your own healing.

And Yes — People Might Gossip

You will feel it. People may gossip. They may project. They may say you’ve changed — because you have.

You may no longer be the person who fits neatly into the roles or boxes others created for you. You may no longer be “liked” in the way you used to be. Also you hav ebeen underestimated.

And that’s okay. Let them.

You are not here to be liked by everyone.You are here to live in truth, even when it makes others uncomfortable.

Let them talk. Stay in your lane.Let your actions speak for your integrity.L et your energy speak for your alignment.

And if people gossip about you — bless them. The Kabbalah teaches that when someone speaks ill of you behind your back, it actually transfers spiritual merit to you. Their words create their karma, not yours. So let them. You stay focused on your growth. On your light. On your truth.

Your Path Will Filter What No Longer Belongs

As you commit to truth, your path will begin to filter everything for you.

People, places, and situations that no longer resonate will fall away — naturally.

You don’t need to force anything.The vibration of your new level of awareness will simply no longer match the environments or relationships built on who you used to be.

It might feel like loss at first.But it's actually clarity.Trust the sorting process.

Once you really embody your worth — not just think it, but live it — you will raise your frequency so high that people will fall away.

Not because you are rejecting them, but because they can no longer match the energy of who you’ve become.

And that’s okay.You will shed layer after layer of your old self.People may try to put you back in your old box — but they can’t.Because you’re simply not that person anymore.

Whether people shift with you or not is not your responsibility.

From my own experience, I’ve seen only a handful of people — including my parents and closest loved ones — evolve with me.Others have fallen away completely.And honestly… no harm done.

What stays, stays.What goes, goes.What matters is that you remain in integrity with your truth.

Trust the Process and Ask to Be Shown

Before we go further, be mindful of this: As your awareness heightens, you may begin to feel superhuman, awake, and sharper than ever. This can become intoxicating. Be aware — and be humble.

Do not fall into the trap of spiritual pride.

You are not superior to others because you see more. Ego can creep in disguised as clarity. Arrogance can distort truth just as much as ignorance can. Stay grounded. Stay teachable. True empowerment never needs to posture.

Know this:When you trust the process — when you surrender to the divine — you are always protected.

But you need to be willing to ask.

I do not shy away from prayer. I ask for guidance.I ask for truth. I ask for protection.

“Please show me the truth, and I will follow.”

These words have guided me more than any strategy or plan ever could.

And here’s the thing: The answers don’t always come in silence.

Sometimes, they arrive as a chance meeting with someone. A conversation that shifts something inside you. An animal crossing your path. A number repeating again and again. A situation that feels uncomfortable but carries a hidden truth. A sentence that stirs your soul and won’t let you forget.

Synchronicities are a language of the divine.

When you ask — and truly stay open — the guidance will find a way to reach you.But you also need to know how to notice it.

“Refining your awareness si key. Practices like Taiji, Qigong, and meditation help you hone this craft of listening — not just with your ears, but with your whole being.”

Awareness is a living skill. A sensitivity. A relationship with presence.

And when I meet people, I don’t just listen to what they say.

“I tune into their energy. I read between every word, gesture, and silence to understand what’s really there. And yes — sometimes it’s disappointing to see through the bullshit so quickly. But don’t let that harden you. Be grateful. Because having the gift of foresight is not a burden — it’s a form of protection.”

Patience is absolutely key.Because this embodiment — this shift in frequency and being — is not easy.It requires devotion. It asks you to stay alert without forcing.

But it’s real.And it’s worth it.

Trust the timing.Trust the unfolding.Trust that the right guidance will come — through signs, through people, through the everyday.And most of all: trust that you are not walking alone.

Final Words

This journey is not about becoming someone new — it’s about remembering who you are beneath the layers.

Yes, freedom can feel raw. Yes, the past might try to pull you back. Yes, some people will misunderstand you.

But you are not meant to go back. You are meant to walk forward — softly, boldly, and truthfully.

“It is not a shame to be a human being — so move from doing to being.”~ Geraldine Hardy

Let your nervous system rest.Let your spirit lead. Stay in integrity. Keep your heart open.Trust what leaves. Feel the ground beneath you. Ask for protection.Wait for the signs.